Women always like fake men

A male friend wrote ths recently in a spiritual discussion online. i wanted to share his thoughts, and mine that were facilittated by his. I think they make for good conversation.

"okay, just a quickie...why is it that women like fake guys so much? On a cruise ship you need to make sure the fake guys are evenly distributed, or the ship will list to whichever side has more of them, from all the women rushing over. By fake I mean guys who wear cologne and act like they know the names of colors and stuff. They're so fake they don't even pretend to not care what women think."

i have avoided responding to the sharing of your frustrations for a few days now.  As another male, i share your frustration, it irks me.  As does women falling for the guy who treats them the worst.  But it has pushed some buttons of mine this sharing of yours.  I wanted to let it settle a bit before writing and today while hiking up Tang San Mountain, it came up again for reflection.  This is what evolved:

As frustrated as i am about women falling for fake men, i am even more frustrated that we men do so with women to an even further degree.  We just don't call it fake since socially women are programmed to "highlight" whatever they choose and we leap to the "new her".  We don't call bras fake.  We don't call hair coloring, even for the 50+ crowd fake (which i am on the verge of entering). We don't call women "working out" fake beacsue they say they are doing it to keep healthy in between cigarettes, caffeine, choclate bars and wine.  We do not call women who smell fragrant fake beacsue that is what women do right?  We do not call woomen fake for shaving the underarms or legs to rid themselves of all conenction to their mamal selves beacsue that is what women do.  i am not criticizing women, at least not consciously.  I am speaking to the fact that we, or at least me and most men, will have our eyes caught by the women who has put effort into her appearance throught diet, cosmetics, hair style and color, body type, bras that lift and separate, snug clothes, young looking skin, ect, ect. Christ, many women won't eat or burp or go to the bathroom when they first meet a guy, forget about being themselves or lettiing their true body odor scent be allowed to be smelled.  I think we are incredibly more guilty of what you shared about than they can ever be, if for no other reason they have more available ways to become fake than us.  I wish i was not a victim to the lure of fakeness in attraction but i am.  I notice the young sweet thing before the amazing, wise and loving women who is still younger than me. I wish i could say otherwise, especially since there are a slew of amaziing women on gaia that may be offended or hurt by what i am sharing.

So what is my point? My point is that we are socially programmed  to be attracted to certaiin things and the programming is deep-seated.  Not always conscious.

Side note.  when i was in japan back in september, a certian social phenomonom caught my attention.  there were many very attractive women with yellow hair.  It was not blonde, it was bleached yellow.  Kind of like David Lee Roth in the eighties.  Although very intersting in its own right, what caught my social curiosity even greater was the amount of men who also had bleached their hair yellow.  Now, yellow haired men ALWAYS had an attractive yellow haired women with them, always.  there were yellow haired women that did not have a man with them but the men aways had a woman and she always was a bleached hair girl.  Somehow, i think this applies.  Maybe something about yoking or even equal yoking.

OK, done with my reflection now.  If anyone is offended, please accept my apology up front. i did not intend to disrespect anyone.  Just writing.

Peace, love and hypocracy,
michael: Hypocrite